Sunday, October 13, 2013

Baby Stuff

Wow, this list got long.

It was requested that I make a general list of what I need/want for this baby that is coming. Now that I've made the list, I'm feeling a little scared...

I will try to update the tab at http://houseofpenguin.blogspot.com/p/baby-stuff.html regularly with what I collect.

I would love nearly everything used! (Exceptions include the crib mattress, pacifiers, and diaper bag.)

Edit: I forgot to mention, it looks like we're having a boy!

What I have:
over the shoulder sling (the kind I loved before!)
high chair (booster seat - got it for free! - again, the kind I loved having before)
Chicco Cortina stroller
a few clothes
promises of LOTS more hand-me-down-clothes (I LOVE hand-me-downs!)

Hooray for the internet! Here is a list of ideas from it, of things I think I will need:
clothes (onesies, shirts, pants, socks, eventually shoes, etc.)
boppy (never had one, but I'd like to try it)
reusable nursing pads
milk storage bags / double electric pump / kit for double electric pump (I don't expect to use bottles at all, but I do hope to donate milk for a family who is adopting or who has a high medical needs child)
burp clothes - maybe cloth diapers :)
bouncy seat (haven't had one before but I think I want one this time, so that in the basement I can easily set my baby down) - used would be great!
pacifiers - I expect to need these, but I probably want to pick up only one or two, of varying types, before the baby is born because not all babies like them
Diaper bag (my husband has requested we get a NEW one - one of only two items on my list I prefer not to have used)
outlet covers, cabinet locks, fridge lock, toilet locks
bulb syrings, baby nail clippers, pacifier-type medicine dispenser, ora-gel, etc.
baby gates (need 2 or 3 that are 4' wide with only vertical slots, close enough together that my cat can't fit between them - we may have to custom build these)
diaper rash ointment (I once found this in a spritzer bottle, and I would LOVE to get more of it like that!!!)
baby blankets
baby towels (probably not necessary, but potentially very fun - on the other hand, where am I going to keep all this stuff?!?)

Larger items:
baby monitor - I DEFINITELY need a good one of these, but I totally haven't done any research yet. I think we want audio only, but our house is split level and technically has 4 floors, so there is no way I can count on hearing the baby in bed from the basement. Any advice on this?
dresser/changing table (doesn't have to be new, though I do really like this one http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/90201513/ from ikea and I have a perfect spot to put it!)
car seat - prefer infant carrier w/ 2 bases - Chicco has the very highest consumer report ratings, and that's the kind of stroller I have, but it's also the very most expensive one out there
swing - I LOVED my swing before - it was a Graco wind up swing (looked like http://www.americanlisted.com/virginia_46/kids_products_toys_18/graco_wind_up_swing_20_00_mechanicsville_13015605.html) - I would really like another wind up, but they don't make them any more; I also have the floor space for a bigger swing, instead of the tiny-and-close-to-the-floor-ones that they make now, so if anyone knows where I can get a used one, I would love to buy it!!!
NEW crib mattress or possibly mini-crib mattress (one of only two items I want new)
NOTE: "Crib" is not on this list. I keep looking at cribs; I had one before but never even assembled it because I didn't like it and didn't want to use it. After the first few months I used a crib mattress on the floor, and liked that quite well. I'm still trying to figure out what I'm doing for the first few months this time. (Did you know co-sleepers that are level with your own mattress run $300-$500? Yeah, a commercial one of those is out.)
SECOND NOTE: Baby bath is also not on the list. I know that the full sized one I had before was ridiculous and not very useful; I've seen a couple of collapsable ones that might work, but I'm not sure they would in my sinks. I think we'll just improvise for the first six months or so like we did before.

For later:
baby dishes (bowls, spoons, high quality sippy cups, etc.)
board books
rattle / toys

Thursday, October 10, 2013

California Vacation

All the way back at the beginning of August, I visited my grandmother in California for a week.

While I was there, I made each of my children a hat!

I spent nearly the entire week sitting on my grandmother's couch, visiting with her. It was absolutely lovely!!!

I also got to visit with my cousin for a couple hours before coming home. I generally only see her once or twice a decade, but I always enjoy it so much when it happens!

My cousin & her son

Me & my cousin
It was a really marvelous trip!

Philosophical rant on stay-at-home vs "work"

Someone posted this article on facebook: http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/10/09/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-what-do-you-do-all-day/ I appreciate this so much! Being a "domestic engineer" (stay-at-home-mom) is a hard and often thankless job. He makes many valid points that are generally ignored or treated as trivial by society as a whole. However, I think that he doesn't recognize how we got to these attitudes. Women who work outside the home - at sometimes, women who do paid work inside the home - often don't want to admit that they can't do as much as a mom as women who focus on mothering full time without outside work. If we admit that, while you work, you are giving up something you could be doing at home, isn't implying that if you work you aren't as good a mother? And, if you aren't giving up something at home by going to work, is there any reason for other women not to go to work instead of staying home? Being a working mom is incredibly hard! After four years of working half time, a year and a half ago I faced the decision to work full time or quit - not just my job, but my career that I'd been working toward for over a decade. It was heart wrenching to give up the work that I truly loved, but I never for a moment doubted my decision. And so, we are faced with supporting women who work outside the home, by not adding to their guilt for the things they simply cannot do because of their work obligations, vs supporting women who stay home because they really do work too. Choice and forced circumstances aside - because regardless of the reason for working outside the home, it still impacts you and your family every day - this whole discussion comes down to respecting and supporting the work that women do everywhere, inside AND outside of their families and their homes. If the respect went both ways, we would all find our work easier.